DEAR MR. PRESIDENT (2) by @seunfakze May 8, 2013Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION, MORALITY, POLITICS.
Tags: Goodluck Jonathan, Nigeria, President
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Hello Mr President,
It has been a while since we last communicated. I have watched, the months passed, with depressing emotions, with overwhelming exasperations, with unhidden bewilderment, with unrestrained dismay how gradually we are descending into the horror of a dream: a nightmare. The spate of attacks on our land ( – morally, mentally, physically to say the least) in the past six months has left most of us speechless. What is more chilling: others are growing inured to the “new plague” and you sit, so it seems; less concerned if we live, if we die.
Many called you clueless, I joined that bandwagon for a while. I have since rescinded that statement. I duly apologize. You know what you are doing sir. You are deliberately indifferent or dangerously a wicked man discerning Nigerians should be scared of. Sometimes, I wonder how you sleep through your decisions. I wonder why you have advisers since your decisions have been bereft of one who has critical thinkers let alone objective counsellors. Your cronies love your reign, they cannot be bothered as your citizens are an hypnotized lot: always talking, never acting.
Lest i forget Mr President, you pardoned Alamieyeseigha. One wonders if you know the weight of debt he owes the people of Nigeria, of Bayelsa state descent. Mr. Alamieyeseigha through his thieving channels and wanton greediness sent many Nigerians to their early graves: massively under-developed Bayelsa – the untarred roads many with gaping holes; the wobbled and destabilized educational institutions; the various hospitals that could have been build and the very many ones without required infrastructure (many women bled to death). I will be right to call you his conniving partner since you were his loyal Deputy then, even now.
Your friend, and erstwhile leader Mr Alamieyeseigha bled that state. His reward for this shameful onslaught on the Nigerian people: a state pardon. Mr Alamieyeseigha is a corrupt and crooked thief; many who stole $1 worth of food to survive in OSUN state are dying in jail cells. Repeatedly, your moral flexibilities and decisions have shown how you enforce the dual Rule of law in Nigeria: one for the rich, the other for the poor. Double standards.
You passed a security budget that has been the highest in our nation’s democratic history, yet your administration has presided over the most unprecedented carnage in our history by home grown terror groups. I cannot blame the rise of terror solely on you, your predecessors policies, and misguided decisions brought us here. However, your decisions have exacerbated the situation than relieve it. One would assume your administration, with it’s rich security budget to checkmate the growing terror situation but your proposed harangue with them shows how weakened your position is.
The high jobless rates in Nigeria are repeatedly being met by a disgruntled, restless, cynical young who can’t wait to steal or make life unbearable for others. Truth be told Sir, I am getting tired. Tired: of sleeping with my eyes alert each time my gate door opens; of the deliberate disparities brought upon my community by decisions and policies you make; of the constant image of our young who hawk on our expressways; of your promises; of your insincerity and insensitivity.
A leader cares, has empathy, speaks from the heart to those he serves. We listen to your robotic lines from Mr Abati, the chameleon. They are without soul, without emotions: cold. You don’t even care anymore when lives are lost! In April, The US lost 3 people in Boston, days later, we lost hundreds in Borno. The US never rested till those hoodlums were captured; no amnesty or respite for those who deliberately kill its citizens. In Nigeria, that is a depressing contrast. Look at Baga, look at Bama. Our brothers and sisters in the north are blown up everyday; what do you care! At least they are not your people, right!
Dear Mr President, with due respect, you have no moral right or character to lead this nation. You lost that right when you sold your conscience. If it is possible within your remaining being, kindly resign. We are truly better off without you as our President.
8th May, 2013
Invite to THE BOOTCAMP May 1, 2013Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION, POLITICS.
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It is my pleasure to invite you to the inaugural BOOTCAMP conference, which also serves as the platform for the formation of the Community service club across schools. With this initiative and your invaluable support, we hope to actualize many of our key value projects in the communities across Nigeria.
The BOOTCAMP program is designed to ensure citizens civic engagement in the democratic process, by building core leadership values and strengthening of democratic values through mentorship and social entrepreneurship amongst young Nigerians. Starting in 2013, across schools, communities and in partnership with other philanthropic platforms, civil organizations and well meaning Nigerians; The BOOTCAMP platform hopes to re-invigorate and energize young people across Nigeria to participate in inclusive democracy using mentorship and social entrepreneurship as strategic tools.
We recognize that building Active Citizens will go beyond the electoral process, hence The BOOTCAMP. Actively engaging them in debating key issues that have a direct bear on their lives, including Policies & Good Governance (including ways to demand accountability and transparency in government spending), Education, Infrastructure & Sustainable Development, Health, Human Rights; etc will ultimately enable them have pointers for debates, discussions and deliberations between themselves; during and after the electoral process.
The proposed establishment of the BEACONS/COMMUNITY SERVICE CLUB and LEADERSHIP EXPO/FUTURE LEADERS FORUM respectively across schools makes this summit a pragmatic platform for grooming and mentoring young Nigerians. Young ones in attendance from different Nigerian schools across the country will long for, and be motivated mentally, physically, psychologically and spiritually for a New Nigeria.
Speakers include Dr Oby Ezekwesili (Fmr Min. of Education & Fmr World Bank Vice President); Dr Tunde Bakare (Intl Centre for Reconstruction and Development); Malam Nasir Elrufai (Fmr Minister FCT); Mr Salihu Lukman (People & Passion Consult); Mr Gbenga Sesan (PINigeria); Mr Akin Oyebode (Stanbic IBTC); amongst many other inspiring young voices.
MENTORSHIP: Young ones are encouraged through a Mentor-Mentee process through school clubs to foster diverse character set values amongst themselves. The establishment of BEACONS Community Service Clubs (CSC) across secondary schools to help facilitate these discussions amongst young ones will be the characteristic hallmark of the BOOTCAMP platform. Mentors, as facilitators of these clubs, will teach and impart directly on leadership values such as Honesty, Integrity, Transparency, Accountable spending, Dignity in labour, Empathy; amongst other noble virtues in want in today’s leadership. We hope, through our platform, to encourage inclusive debates, discussions and development of pointed charters/blueprints on issues and challenges facing each citizen of Nigeria.
SOCIAL ENTREPRENEURSHIP: The core civic engagements in social entrepreneurship will help us deepen social interaction amongst young ones, expand youth participation in democracy, strengthen democratic culture and values, and ultimately hold public institutions accountable. Ultimately, by raising these discussions across pockets in Nigeria, we will be able to build grassroots democratic engagement amongst young ones. This implies that young people are not only engaging in discussions but are enabled in addressing societal challenges by using core leadership values to deliver vibrant and transformative solutions to their communities. These CSC platforms help to build discussions and allow them practice lessons learnt with the provision of start-up grants (N50,000) for each participating school. This way, young people not only learn in an interactive engaging club but also have the required funds that will help them deliver any transformative idea/change they so desire.
These two key attributes of the BOOTCAMP platform will enable us build a capable and competent Replacement Generation as the next set of leaders in our nation. Our goal is to RAISE A REPLACEMENT GENERATION by strengthening values, culture and an engaging process in democracy amongst young ones; with keen strategy on mentoring and social entrepreneurship as tools for engagement. We believe these are key points to building an engaging young platform that will help develop young people across grassroots towards building a strong and vibrant future for our nation.
We ask you to join us on May 25, 2013 at the University of Lagos Main Auditorium in our quest to build a strong and New Nigeria.
Founder and Team Lead,
The BOOTCAMP NIGERIA
WATCHING LAGOS, RANTING EFFECTIVELY by @pheesayor January 7, 2013Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION, POLITICS.
Tags: good governance, Lagos, Nigeria, rants
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It is past festive season and the holidays are over, work has resumed for some and those who travelled are gradually returning back. On social media, the ranting continues, about how government continues to take us for granted. We sit with our phones and PC and come online to complain about the government, some are even tired and have resigned to fate, why???
Around the period of the 2011 polls, I heard a popular Nigerian say on TV that we can monitor elections (with our phone camera) and send information online to ensure credibility, I did the little I could.
The truth is almost everyone has a camera phone, many don’t know the camera is a very useful tool. You see a policeman/traffic warder receiving bribe, instead of coming to twitter to complain you make good use of your phone’s camera and post the pictures online, hereby exposing them. You drive through bad roads and complain about government’s inefficiency, you can a picture and post online just in case the person in charge of fixing that road has said the road is in good condition. Little things like blocked drainages needs to be exposed.
The truth is the Federal Government is getting majority of the attention and they feel it is by paid opposition because state and local governments also get money deliver dividends but they are not always monitored and criticized and this has rendered many of the lazy and corrupt. A particular local government chairman in Lagos went to press to claim he’s fixing all the roads in a particular town, he fixed the outer roads and left the inner roads. If he knew he was being watched he would be on his toes and execute that project effectively. Also the senators and house of representatives members regularly claim to carry out constituency projects which they actually receive money for, if there is any in your area you can let the world know, if there is none you can also let the world know. Let us point our searchlights towards other arms of governments who receive allocations and also generate their own revenue.
WatchingLagos is a platform with which you can expose or praise governance around you, there might be claims that roads around you were fixed whereas just a little portion was patched, take pictures and send to us for exposure or appraisal. Your mobile phone shouldn’t just be for facebook/twitter/browsing/BBM alone, you can take those pictures and send to us at email@example.com or tweet at us @watchinglagos. Pictures will be posted on the website http://www.watchinglagos.com.
Those in other states can also start something similar, watching their respective states or even LGA. Together we can demand responsible and accountable governance at various levels.
I am @pheesayor
A PROUD BEACONISTA by Fred Adetiba @fredor4c January 5, 2013Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION.
Tags: #BEACONS, burden bearer, community service projects, Fred Adetiba, Mentors, Mentorship, Nigeria
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In every family, there’s alwaysa burden bearer, and it’s that person who carries the burden of the entire family. The burden bearer may not necessarily be the first born, but he or she is always concerned about the well being of the individual members, as well as the entire family. One of the qualities of a burden bearer is that he or she puts the family interest above personal interests. As it is in every family, so it is every society.
We have some individuals in different spheres who are burden bearers for this nation. Beacons Development Foundation has become a rallying point for such people in this generation. I call them the BEACONISTAS. The foundation has two inter-related target; one is community service and the other is mentoring. These people have embarked on several community service projects in some deprived communities in the Nigeria, using their own resources as well as supports from well meaning Nigerians through social media. It has also coordinated collection of relief materials for victims of disasters. Some of these projects include the Karmajiji Health and Education Intervention, Ayobo Free Health Care Intervention, Karu Community Sanitation, The Dana Crash, etc.
These guys are indeed burden bearers for our nation. They help keep my hope for a New Nigeria alive. They have proven their worth by remaining steadfast to this cause even in the face of increasing discouragement from our leaders. They have refused to give up but instead have chosen to keep the faith, by working towards a better society for us all.
Aside being a platform to create a synergy for change in the country by way of pulling young people of like minds together, it is also raising and preparing the replacement generation (@bootcampnigeria). It is making huge investment in the younger generation to prepare them for the challenges of leadership in our day and most importantly those they are likely to confront in the nearest future. This is an opportunity we were denied by the current leaders, most of whom have become tired and have refused to retire. Most of them have expressed blatant lack of interest in doing what is right. And some have demonstrated that they lack the capacity to even do the right thing.
Our leaders did not only gluttonously eat their future, they have also eaten ours. All we hear is how most of them went to school free of charge or paid little next to nothing. They also tell us about how there were jobs for the graduates. Some of them even got their jobs while they were still in school, with official cars waiting for them. They only tell us about the ‘good old days’, while they passed on to us the ‘new bad days’.
BEACONISTAS have vowed by their actions not to perpetrate this wickedness against the next generation. We are looking ahead, way beyond our generation to secure others yet unborn. The old generation chose to completely neglect the future by not caring for their youth, even when the older generation did their best to secure their future. They enjoyed the foundational structures that were laid by the Ahmadu Bellos, the Awos and others that laid a moderately good foundation for all of us. Our leaders enjoyed this foundation, and rather than build and improve on it, they bastardised it. Now they loot our common wealth for themselves and immediate family.
We, at Beacons development foundation have chosen a different path. We are committed to ensuring the stability of our country by providing the much needed intervention for the people in our own little way. In the same vein we are committed to securing the future by preparing the replacement generation. I am so very proud to be a part of these exceptional young people, most of whom are not popular in any way on Nigeria’s social scene. They are your struggling regular neighbourhood folks. Join us if you consider yourself a burden bearer, who is prepared to get into the mud to fix our society. I am indeed proud to be a BEACONISTA
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SAPELE BOOK DRIVE (d-xtreme group) November 30, 2012Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION.
Tags: book reading, D-xtreme group, Nigeria, Sapele
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d-xtreme unit is a social entrepreneurship group based in Sapele, Delta State of Nigeria and has been in existence since July 2004, initiating and deploying projects that educate, motivate and
In 2010, we decided to begin a library series; a project which consists of various book projects that will culminate in a literary festival in the near future. So far, in the library series, we have done a physical make-over for the community public library in 2010. This involved clearing of the surroundings, painting of the entire complex and fixing of electrical fittings. In 2011, we continued the series and embarked on a book drive, and raised books for
the public library.
This December, 2012, we have decided to continue the series by embarking on a book drive to seek donation of books which we will be used in setting up libraries in ten secondary (high schools) in Sapele, Delta State. We are also launching the SAPELE BOOK CLUB which will be the vehicle for mentoring/creating a hub of book lovers/writers and capacity development in literature and have access to information on opportunities, scholarships, etc that will be beneficial to the young people.
SAPELE BOOK DRIVE 2012 “3000 Books in 20 days”
December 1-20, 2012
The Book reading/Presentation ceremony with the students and teachers of representative schools present will hold December 22, 2012
team leader, d-xtreme unit
AFRICA GIVES via @toksyk27 November 28, 2012Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION.
Tags: Africa gives, African Foundation for Development, Tokunbo Koiki
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It is with pleaseure that I introduce to you, AFRICA GIVES
Africa-Gives is an initiative supporting ‘young’ people of African heritage, living outside Africa, to connect and engage with their home continent. The main goal is to enable young diaspora Africans, who want to build a relationship with our ‘homeland’, to mobilise significant resources – money, time and skills – for development in Africa.
The Africa-Gives Steering Committee first two challenges are
· To help raise a minimum of £5000 to develop an online platform that will enable us to connect with and support our peers in Africa, in areas such as business development;
· To invite and encourage ten generous friends to book tickets and join me to celebrate and raise money for a good cause.
We need your help to support an Autumn 2012 Film Fundraiser on 7 December 2012 at The Cinema Museum in Kennington. Africa-Gives will be screening the Hollywood blockbuster Invictus followed by a Q&A session and book signing with John Carlin who wrote Playing the Enemy: Nelson Mandela and the Game that made a Nation, the book that would later inspire the film Invictus. On sale during the event will be drinks, canapés, some light bites and raffle tickets See attached promotion for more information.
Here’s how you can help:
· Buy a ticket at http://www.wegottickets.com/event/195174 and then turn up!
. Share this event with friends and family
Yes, that is all you need to do.
Join us for drinks, canapés, light bites and the prospect of some exciting raffle prizes on 7 December. Come prepared to have fun whilst supporting a good cause.
For more information and to book your tickets, please see attached e-flyer or follow the links below:
You can also hear a podcast introducing the Africa-Gives and the fundraiser.
Please help spread the word by forwarding to your friends and colleagues.
We look forward to your support.
AFFORD – The African Foundation for Development
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INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE ON POPULATION & DEVELOPMENT November 26, 2012Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION, MOTIVATION.
Tags: DEVELOPMENT, GLOBAL YOUTH FORUM, ICPD
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It is my pleasure to introduce to you the International Conference on Population and Development: Beyond 2014. I am an Official delegate to this conference, alongside other Nigerians. My objective is clear: to help propagate the discussion of 5 key issues through social media and meetups which ultimately lead to the drawing of points and recommendations.
On 3-6 December 2012, over 900 youth leaders from every country will have an unprecedented opportunity to influence global policy.
Recommendations from the Global Youth Forum will be presented by the Secretary General of the United Nations to the General Assembly. Like the watershed International Conference on Population and Development in 1994, the ICPD Beyond 2014 Review will have a profound influence on future policy at national, regional and global levels, keeping human rights at the heart of development.
This event is not unique to Nigeria alone. Around the world, youth leaders will connect locally and electronically to provide a shared response to the social, economic and human rights challenges and opportunities faced by their generation. This is the moment when the 43% take control of our shared future.
From Tuesday, 27th November, 2012; I urge you to join in the conversation as we engage on social media on HEALTH (27th); COMPREHENSIVE EDUCATION(28th); TRANSITIONS TO DECENT EMPLOYMENT FOR YOUTH(29th); SEXUALITY, FAMILIES AND RIGHTS(30th); and FULLY INCLUSIVE CIVIC PARTICIPATION(1st Dec).
You and i will use the #icpdyouth hashtag in our discussions and help drive the required recommendations (using Nigeria critically as case study).It is my hope that our voice will find a passage for expression to influence policy around the world and in our nation.
ICPD GLOBAL YOUTH FORUM
Official Delegate 2012
MARITAL BLISS OR BS? By @seunfakze November 18, 2012Posted by seunfakze in EDUCATION, MORALITY.
Tags: abuse, Battery, savagery, women
Broken glasses sounding like clanging cymbals, high pitched cries for help, ultimately armed robbers attack: those were hurried thoughts yesterday night as I hurriedly put off my light, switch off my phone and lock the doors. In retrospect, those first responses were not enough to wade off armed robbers, if they were the ones in my compound. Few people think clearly when emergent situations arise!
Moments later, I herd co-tenant voices so I steeped out. Under the weight of my foot, we’re broken glasses, apparently from the window panes upstairs. Mustered a few words of prayers as I was just in the same spot some minutes earlier. A little delay, those glades would be directly on my head! Some clusters of people already gathered. So what was the noise all about?
My findings turned out to be a something we all know: the usual bashing of a woman by the husband. My sister had successfully rescued the 18months old baby from the father (whilst he returned to his boxing ring). I discovered, as I discussed with other co-tenants, how the man had constantly turned the woman to a practice bag. The wife, in question, had just returned home less than 5 days. She had left home 6 months ago when this same man had almost taken her life, beating her mercilessly.
Why did she get those attacks yesterday: she had picked a call from a male friend who the husband alleged she had sexual relations with. Whatever it is that makes a man bang a woman’s head on the floor, against hard objects, against window panes, pull her by the hairs and other dastardly act is beyond comprehension to me, regardless of the issue! Regardless!
It made me ponder. Made me mad. What a barbarian we all were living with. In repeated flashes, I thought: what can I do? I looked at the young but crying child: what was her crime? I looked at the mother: what if she died? I looked at my co-tenants: we were all at risk living with this dangerous man!
What i have described is a natural scenery for some people. I heard of similar tales yesterday. Yet, that does not justify such rampant battery incidences. It’s savagery to take advantage of the disadvantaged, I concluded. What was more annoying: I found out this couple dated for 10 years before they settled down. Of course, these beatings were part of the relationship. “Nonsense” I retorted!
Amazed to always hear women say “he will change” in marriage when obviously he made no effort in the relationship to. Sometimes, I sincerely do not understand why women have to put up with men with serious characters deformities, or these multiple complex disorder. I do not understand why they stay in abusive relationships or what do they do to deserve such.
I understand the saying “men are scarce” but that shouldn’t be the key to battery or abuse of relationships. I hate it when men treat women like they are lesser or as slaves. The sadistic tendencies of many men turn out to be unfortunately brutal in marriage. That’s what I witnessed yesterday, and I vowed to do what’s necessary to prevent the next (if I am aware)
First, we will sit down and firmly educate this man on the grievous implications of his undeterred actions. Admonish, if we can; if not we proceed to a secondary resolve. I found out he works for Access Bank. I found out too of the Human Rights watch in my community. Those are secondary levels of engagement I hope to embark on. The police too are not left out.
Women have rights, and it should not be trampled. My younger sister cannot be treated in such dehumanizing manner; I will not take it. There is a level of “knowing” in relationships that one gets to which makes one sees the “kind” of man/woman one is ending up with. Do not settle for crap. Relationships takes two individuals committed to improving and accommodating one another’s deficiencies, working to improve it and complementing it.
It’s sad how many women struggle in their union, trying to keep a healthy balance between the children, their man and work. Its unfortunate when they are left unappreciated or worse still abused (sometimes fatal). I am not absolving women of all wrong doings. No! They can be difficult. That I know.
Women can sometimes be very annoying, admitted; but it goes both ways. It’s cowardice and barbaric to turn them into punching bags because of reconcilable issues, moreso when it’s trifling. If you are in an abusive relationship (most importantly when you are not yet married) I beg you: think it through. You are worth more alive than 6 feet under. I know Yoruba’s say “ah, he is the father of my children”. Well, I pray you don’t die in that house. He’ll remarry and live on. Think!
No man, in my humble submission, is worth a woman’s endurance of a repeated vicious cycle of abuse.
THE RISE & RISE OF DEPRAVITY September 20, 2012Posted by seunfakze in EDUCATION, MORALITY.
Tags: Boobsthursday, culture, morals, obscenity
I opened a link, some weeks back with dismay, to see some list called TOP 40 BANGABLE CHICS ON TWITTER. This morning, it’s “boobsthursday”. No one warned me of the new tradition of San Francisco creeping gradually into our respected culture in Nigeria. Are we outta our senses!
With presto, the rate and advancement of inanity on social media seems to be knowing no boundaries. And while men and women of virtue keep quiet, obscenities seem to be rising in leaps and bounds daily. If not for The madness of hopeless thoughts on social media, what sane/normal lady would post her privates on social media? Absolute idiocy!
Of all things to be proud of, to push to public domain and view, of all sensible reasonable things; your cherished boobs. Who would I blame? Mobile phones has given a whole lot of mad people the opportunity to express their inanities. Shame
Dear future first lady, Don’t forget what the media is today.In years to come,your nude pictures would find their ways to haunt you. Take heed. Go get a life. Your mates are pursuing other noble worthy ambitions. Get busy doing something reasonable than exalting your idiocy.
MEN are visual, moved by the things they see. Don’t give perverted men an excuse to rape you. I am yet to find that Nigerian/African man who takes pride in a woman whose privacies has been savored by the public. Instead of stooping so low to get recognition; find you, nurture you, understand you, utilize/develop you, maximize you.
Instead of looking at Hollywood, or stars like Nicki Minaj; Look at Dr Oby Ezekwesili. That’s a strong focussed woman. Maybe you need to change those you’ve made your role models. Niki Minaj isn’t worthy enough to be one except of course you have a career in the entertainment industry.
You have no business being with those whose pattern of life, of work, isn’t aligned with your purpose in life. People who know why they are here relentlessly pursue such calling. No time to waste!
How much time, effort, resources are you committing to what makes you happy, to your dreams, to your goals! Stop being the 99%. Be the rare. The 1%
I’m not amused by the depravity encircling my generation. It’s not appealing, it’s disgraceful. Where are the fathers? Where are the role models? Where are the mentors? The society is crashing. I’m saddened to see what we laugh at, what we ended up silently celebrating. Obscenity. Disgusting and annoying irritable appalling perversion
I am not a saint, I have my flaws. The are huge. But daily, I strive to learn, to be better, for myself, my future, my wife, my children, my generation, my nation. To impact it in ways I can and I’m enabled to. And I am not alone!
Maybe you’ve lost your dignity, the it’s time to do a turn around. Stop throwing your honor to the dogs! Common. Have honor for yourself. You someday will be someone’s jewel of unequalled value. What lens will you be viewed from: a broken irreparable rod? I don’t understand how prestigious you seem to feel for appearing on someone’s perverted list or to appear bare-chested as a woman, of all places: Twitter!
And guys: when next you want to wallow in such depravity or take her to bed; just take a break and imagine if you’ll treat her same if she were your sister. Or if you will allow your sister be treated as such: brandished and showcased as a slut on social media.
A woman Is not an object to be taken, used, dumped, abandoned, and thrown away at will. She’s human, with value, of virtue, with substance. Only hoping the woman will treat herself with enough class, honor and finesse to be taken seriously by men!
YOU THINK YOU NEED SEXUAL APPEAL TO GET A MAN? Goodluck to you!
What About your goals, your life dreams, your ambitions? If you attract him because of your boobs and your sexy nature, don’t complain if he doesn’t see anything else in you than SEX, Is he committed to making you better? Is he driven to make it through those rigors and struggles of your life or just interested in getting between your legs?
What about your gifts, your talents, your purpose, your calling, what you do best? Is he interested in harnessing them, nurturing them, developing thm, encouraging them, trimming them, cultivating them, teaching you, enlightening you,? Growing together, loving one another without strings attached? Or he is just committed to you so long as he keeps getting in your bed? So long as your legs are an open way to his endless satisfaction?
What are you to him? Use and dump? Or nurture and preserve? What? If You’re caught in a cycle, let off that circle. Some stages and steps you have to let off in life. Some friends, some relationships, you have to let go.
Sacrifice now to gain tomorrow!
At the end, when he’s done with you sexually, he’ll probably move on. They mostly do. Don’t be another statistics. These words, definitely, not for all.
There is more to you than your vagina. Let him know you are no cheapo. Your worth is not Mr Biggs. You may be poor but that is your present state, not your future. Dignity, honor, value, virtue, essence, prestige. You’ve got them all; if not, find them! Pick up your broken pieces. Start all over again.
You are somebody. Stop letting people debase you, stop letting them threat you like a nobody.
Not everything is about sex. Get a life!
I am @seunfakze
WE’RE ON THE BRINK by Wale Babatunde March 11, 2012Posted by seunfakze in CHANGE, EDUCATION, POLITICS.
Tags: Brink, Nigeria
Really wish I can write this as a letter to your mail box, make it a little personal and possibly send a box of chocolate with it, so you eat a delicacy as you read in order not to fall off the brink you’re standing on.
But since, I can’t send you a chocolate delicacy, I can’t send a letter to your mail box plus I can’t make it a little personal then I have to let you know about the brink you are standing on (a moral obligation if you ask me). But in case you’re comfortable on that brink, just imagine sitting on a three-legged chair, you know with time your back will serve as your only balance (well sincerely, I don’t wish you that).
My guess is, you’re wondering which brink you are standing on. Then again, you tell yourself, am not standing on any brink but on a second thought (which I doubt), you ask yourself a mind-blowing question, am I on a brink of something? Well, be the judge if you’re or not when you’re through with the article (I beg you read on).
On what brink are you standing on? But before you find an answer to that question, please tell me what is going on “right” around you (if not with you)? I bet you saw that little child on the street begging this morning (did you). Or did you listen to the news last night? Did you read the paper this morning? You read about the bombs again? The accidents, as a result of bad roads. And you most have possibly read about the failing judiciary, the spend drift executive and the gang of scum bags bending laws.
Oh! There are news that did not get airwaves just because they have become norm among us, the news of pregnant women dying of malaria. The high rate of youth unemployment. The dilapidated infrastructures. The collapsed educational system. And most recently the milking of the drowning pocket of the people through the fuel hike. My guess is, you’re used to the news that are now societal norm. They are the “acceptable evil”.
But you, you’ve a job (more pitiful if you don’t), you’ve got a certificate written in your name (or at least all things been equal, you’ll get one). You don’t have to jump on a public transport to reach your nearest destination, Huh! Big deal! Yet we all travel on the same death trap roads. And your car visit the workshop too often, so you’re not alien to others (deal with that).
And according to a fearless Nigeria in 1983, he said, “if we need electricity, we buy our own generator (if not a Mikano), if we need water, we dig our own bore-hole” (The Trouble with Nigeria; Chinua Achebe, 1983 ). That statement written almost 30 years ago still “hold water” till now in our nation. So, if you were fortunate to be born 30 years ago, the truth of the matter is this – Nothing (Absolutely nothing) has changed since you were born till now. Rather things are getting pretty worst. Corruption is the mother of the day. Terrorism is now divided of governance. Kleptomanic are in possession of political power. (How sad!)
Unfortunately for you, your kid will be a citizen of this nation either by birth or by origin. He/she will witness this gross madness in this nation. He/she might be denied of education because of his/her state of origin. He might be denied of a well deserved opportunity because you the father or mother don’t “belong”. Sound medical facility will come at a very high cost to him or her.
And I hope he/she won’t ask you why you failed to give him/her the best education. He will cry because you can’t afford to buy him the latest game machine in store. And she will make you sweat for not buying her those nice clothe her friends are wearing. Yet you’ll work 8-5 everyday but rent, fuel price, food items, and possibly electronic gadget will take a large part of your pay away. My friend, that is just a tip of the iceberg of the next 10- 20 years of your life. The truth is, a part of me feel sorry for you but are you going to stand on that brink forever.
Here is the brink you’re standing on, a brink of political instability. A brink of economic growth but no economic development. A brink of social disaster. A brink of ethnic intolerance. A brink of joblessness, homelessness, famine and poverty. You’re standing on a threshold of national collapse. The most populous black nation on earth is on a brink and you’re standing on it.
The truth is, hope is not lost yet. You can reverse that ugly situation of the next 10-20 years of your life. You can redeem the lost time. You can stand off the brink and put yourself back on the path of success. On the path of justice, fairness and equality for all. You as a bonafide citizen of this nation can be that change to build a better nation; a New Nigeria.
But you’re not alone, am on that brink too. Over 70 million Nigeria youth are on that same brink. We are the generation of less “quality” education and no job. We are the generation plugged with HIV/AIDS and all forms of flu and diseases. We are the generation that have witness famine, poverty at higher rate. We are the generation that have been constantly denied of good governance and accountability. We are victims of social injustice. Our females are constantly molested. Our males are used as thugs for political game.
What can we do to stand off the brink, join well-meaning people like you and start a change chain reaction from your group, then your community. Establish cells, that will volunteer to provide social change within your community. Organize, plan and change your community. Form a reliable unit to encourage and practice unique standard initiative change or join hands with other millions of youth trying so hard to be the change. Volunteer with organization like BEACONS, EnoughisEnough or join movement like 20millionYouth2015 or NigerianDemand. Let work to step off this dangerous brink in order not to fall on our back. Your child needs you. Your unborn children deserve a better New Nigeria.
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